Understanding People Who Need You

Need is often based on reliance or dependency on support, resources, or emotional stability. People who need you often seek you out because they require something specific from you—help, validation, protection, or assistance.

Characteristics of People Who Need You

• Interaction tends to be conditional: They reach out when they want or need something.
• Their presence may decrease when their need is fulfilled or no longer relevant.
• They might become upset or frustrated if you cannot meet their needs.
• Example: A colleague who only talks to you when they want help with work.

Emotional Connection and Motivation

• The emotional bond is primarily based on utility and dependency.
• They may lack deeper emotional involvement or understanding of your feelings.
• Their focus is often on how you benefit them.

Risks of Being Needed Excessively

• Can lead to emotional exhaustion or feeling used.
• Relationships may feel transactional or superficial.
• You might feel pressured to always be available.

Understanding People Who Love You

• Love is unconditional and selfless: it involves caring for someone regardless of circumstances. Those who love you value your happiness, well-being, and growth above their own needs.

Characteristics of People Who Love You

• Their presence is consistent and not solely dependent on your ability to provide something.
• They support you through ups and downs, whether you’re able to give something back or not.
• They celebrate your successes and comfort you in failures without judgment.
• Example: A close friend or family member who supports you emotionally, even when no favors are needed.

Emotional Connection and Motivation

• Love is rooted in empathy, respect, and genuine affection.
• They seek to understand you deeply and accept your flaws.
• The relationship is reciprocal and nurturing on multiple levels.

Benefits of Being Loved

• Provides emotional strength, security, and a sense of belonging.
• Encourages personal growth and authentic self-expression.
• Fosters resilience in difficult times.

Note that:

• People who need you depend on you for certain things and may leave when those needs are met.
• People who love you stay with you through all phases of life, valuing you for who you are, not just what you offer.